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Dear Annie: I enjoy reading your advice and hope you have some for me.

I've always been the person people come to with their problems. I'm told I'm a good listener, likely because of my own counseling journey. I often suggest therapy or AA to others, especially when addiction is involved.

I grew up in an abusive, alcoholic environment and ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I live in a three-bedroom house with our two grown children. Recently, our youngest daughter had a baby and moved back home -- bringing her boyfriend with her. We told her beforehand that he couldn't stay here, but they moved him in anyway. Now, the two of them -- and their baby -- are living out of her bedroom.

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Dear Annie: I am almost 40 and trying to rebuild a healthier relationship with my dad. When I was a child, he was my hero, the person I looked up to and went to for advice. When I was about 10, he told me that I would probably have trouble getting along with him during my teenage years, but that things would get better when I became an adult. ...Read more

Dear Annie: I've been with my loving partner, "Daniel," for six years. We're both in our 40s and have children from previous relationships. Our life together is generally very harmonious. We share responsibilities, enjoy spending time together and support one another deeply. We align on most values and have built a life that, in many ways, ...Read more

Dear Annie: I have always considered myself someone who values friendship deeply. I have many friends, at least on paper, but I have noticed something that has started to weigh heavily on me. I am almost always the one reaching out. If I do not initiate the call, text or invitation, days or even weeks go by in silence. It is rare that anyone ...Read more

Dear Annie: My best friend and I have been close for over 20 years. We've seen each other through marriages, divorces, parenting challenges, health scares -- you name it. She is the person I call when I'm heartbroken, when I'm celebrating or when I just need someone to remind me who I am.

Lately, though, she has been going through a rough ...Read more

Dear Annie: I've been with my girlfriend for seven years and lived with her for four. She wants to get married and have kids. For the past three years, I've promised to propose every six months, but when the time comes, I back out. I even went ring shopping but couldn't pull the trigger.

Although I want to get married and have kids one day, ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband does not like my sister. He says she reminds him too much of his ex-wife. It has now come to the point where he doesn't want to be around her. This is making it very difficult to see my whole family. They live in Canada, and we are planning a trip there to visit them, seeing as my father's mental health is getting bad.

My...Read more

Dear Annie: My sister "Kendra" and I are not very close and only communicate two to three times per year, mainly in emails. Kendra sold her home and moved out of state. Through our sibling, I heard that she listed her house high to begin with and had to come down on her price in the end but made a decent amount on it. I never commented on how ...Read more

Dear Annie: I've been reading your column for a long time, and I admire how reasonable and nonjudgmental your advice seems to be.

My husband and I were childhood sweethearts. We are currently separated, and I am concerned that this might lead to divorce.

This is my second marriage. We have two children. Our first child was born in February ...Read more

Dear Annie: My son's wife was pregnant with their third child in November 2021. At that time, even though my wife is severely handicapped, I offered to come over and spend time with the "grandkids" while she gave birth. She called in December and said, "Pop, I'm in labor." I said, "Don't worry, I'll look in on the kids while you all are in the ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm a 45-year-old woman, and my boyfriend is 36. His family loves me, except for his dad. I don't know what I have done for him to dislike me. I should say that at one point, in the past, he used to like me.

When my boyfriend's mom was diagnosed with cancer, I was there each time she was in the hospital. My boyfriend and I would ...Read more

Dear Annie: I love your column and am writing to offer a different point of view for the woman whose family does not celebrate her birthday or Mother's Day or Christmas the way she wants. She says she gives them presents, but they don't reciprocate.

Well, I have a friend who goes overboard in celebrating these holidays. She will spend an entire...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I finalized our divorce in April after nearly a year of separation. I'm at a loss as to what to do now when it comes to my ex's birthday and Father's Day. We share an 8-year-old son who is severely autistic, so when it comes to holidays and whatnot, everything is my doing with only a little assistance from our boy.

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Dear Annie: I work remotely and rent a small guesthouse on a property owned by a retired couple, "Tom" and "Linda." They live in the main house and are kind, but recently their friendliness has crossed into something more intrusive.

At first, it was small things; Linda would wave and come chat while I was outside on a break, or Tom would ask ...Read more

Dear Annie: My sister, "Jenna," is 38 and recently started selling handmade candles online. I was excited for her at first; it's a big step to start your own business. But now, every conversation somehow turns into a pitch. She'll bring candles to family dinners and "gift" them, only to follow up later asking for social media shoutouts or ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm 65 years old, and after years of focusing on everything and everyone else, I finally feel ready to date again. The only problem is -- I'm not sure how to go about it, or if it's even realistic at my age.

I'll be honest: I have not been the best judge of character in the past. That makes me extra cautious now, especially when ...Read more

Dear Annie: I had my kids in my early 20s, which felt right for me and my husband at the time. We live in New York City, where most parents we meet had children much later in life. At school events, playdates or birthday parties, we're often the youngest parents in the room -- sometimes by more than a decade.

While everyone is polite, I can't...Read more

Dear Annie: I'll be starting college this fall, and while I'm excited to grow academically, I'm also looking forward to making new friends and maybe even finding a boyfriend. But I already know one thing: I don't plan on sharing many details about my romantic life with friends -- if I mention it at all.

Here's why: I've noticed that when ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm 45 and trying to move forward after the end of a 15-year marriage that left me emotionally and financially depleted. In my early 20s, I was an ambitious, college-educated overachiever who fell in love with a charming, carefree man. He had no real goals, had flunked out of college and was working part-time in fast food. But I ...Read more