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Dear Anna,

I'm a 32-year-old woman with a problem I've recently learned is called “limerence,” and it's destroying my life. Every few years, I become completely obsessed with someone — usually someone unavailable, like a coworker who's married, a friend's partner or someone who's made it clear they're not interested. It starts innocently ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I'm a 32-year-old woman with a problem I've recently learned is called “limerence,” and it's destroying my life. Every few years, I become completely obsessed with someone — usually someone unavailable, like a coworker who's married, a friend's partner or someone who's made it clear they're not interested. It starts innocently ...Read more

Q: After some consideration, I decided to change my age online to 62. I just think 62 sounds better than 65 (and everyone tells me I look young for my age… and I certainly don’t feel 65). What do you think?

-- Susan, 65, Baltimore

A: I would strongly recommend against lying about your age. Yes, you'll likely get more hits, but at what ...Read more

PHILADELPHIA -- George had a problem, and he had reached out to Yowei Shaw for help.

After a decade-plus relationship, his wife had come out as queer and divorced him. (George is a Midwesterner using a pseudonym.)

Shaw, the Philly-based creator and founder of the new podcast Proxy, listened to his story and began her search for help.

The ...Read more

SAN JOSE, Calif. -- After years of always being the perpetual bridesmaid, Lisa Catalano of San Mateo, California, laid down her soft-pink bouquet, hung up her strappy blue satin Maid of Honor dress and drafted a text to her friends:

“I’m officially announcing my retirement from being a bridesmaid,” she wrote. “The next wedding I’m ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I'm in a polyamorous relationship with my girlfriend of two years, and we see each other once a week due to other partners and our demanding work schedules. I completely understand that she's often exhausted when we finally get together, and I'm fine with low-key dates like ordering takeout and watching TV. The problem is that even ...Read more

This week, we have three very relatable dating questions:

Question: I really like Gerry and don’t feel like sifting through other profiles. But is that wise? Should I still go through the motions as backup options until my three-month Match subscription ends, in case Gerry and I fizzle? I know he likes me.

-- Jane, 62, Orlando, Florida

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I recently got a question from someone on my mailing list, not a client (so I don’t know their details intimately) but a person who seeks dating advice, and that question was this:

“Is it good to have some secrets in a relationship? Isn't that one of the many things that attracts a person… a little mystery? Are there things that you ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I'm a 31-year-old man who's been with my 27-year-old girlfriend for three years. We met through friends and clicked immediately — our conversations flow effortlessly and we laugh constantly together. But I'm struggling with something that's eating me alive: I'm losing physical attraction to her. When we started dating, I knew we ...Read more

Dear Anna,

I'm a 39-year-old man, married to my 36-year-old wife for 11 years. Last month I discovered she'd been having an emotional affair with a coworker that lasted about three months. When confronted, she admitted she hasn't felt attracted to me for over a year and that she's never really felt that "spark" with me, even though we've always...Read more

So many questions I get, as a dating coach, follow the format of, “How do I ask ____?” That blank might be “for more time together,” “for a date this Friday,” “for a few texts between dates,” “what they’re looking for in the future.” And in all of these cases, I would simple cross off the “how do I ask,” and you’re ...Read more