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Asking Eric: Patient wants to date long-time dentist
Dear Eric: I have had the same dentist for the past 15 years. Within the last year, I have found myself wanting to know him on a personal level. I know he is not involved in a relationship, and he seems interested as well. How should I proceed?
– Makes Me Smile
Dear Smile: First, find a new dentist. The American Dental Association’s Code ...Read more
Dreams Don't Have Deadlines
Dear Annie: From the time I was in second grade, I knew I wanted to be a writer. But everyone around me insisted it was a terrible idea. So, I chose the "safe" path and became a teacher, spending two years in a high school English classroom before transitioning to a role as a school librarian.
I also married a man I believed was the love of ...Read more

Asking Eric: Sister and roommate refuses to learn life skills
Dear Eric: My younger sister, Lucy, and I are both in our 20s and share an apartment.
Growing up, I faced a lot of double standards from our parents compared to Lucy, especially when it came to household responsibilities. Lucy was coddled to the point of depriving her of developing basic life skills.
As adults, I end up picking up the slack ...Read more
Fairness in Friendship
Dear Annie: I went on a 10-day girls trip with five other women, including my best friend. By the third day, I realized I was being singled out for having different opinions and struggling to keep up physically. I have lung disease, but these women (all older with their own limitations) dismissed it as something an inhaler could fix.
We had ...Read more

Asking Eric: Nephews fail $10k gift ‘test’
Dear Eric: We have two nephews, 17 and 21, and felt it was time to teach them money management skills and saving for retirement. At Thanksgiving, we funded two brokerage accounts for each – a $7,000 Roth IRA and $3,000 brokerage. We also gave two books on long-term investing.
Given the 40-plus years until they retire, the funds, if added to, ...Read more
Not Making Excuses Anymore
Dear Annie: My husband pouts and refuses to come with me when I visit our kids and grandkids, choosing instead to stay home watching TV and playing on his computer. I used to make excuses for him -- saying he was busy or doing chores -- but now I just tell the truth: "Grandpa's crabby and staying home."
His father used to fake stomachaches ...Read more
Being Brazenly Loud for the Greater Good
It feels like there are people in America who wake up every morning, stretch like a cartoon villain, and immediately start working to make things worse. They clog up school board meetings, launch unhinged Facebook rants, and propose legislation that makes you check if it's satire. And you know what? They do it with confidence that would be ...Read more

Asking Eric: Friend is worried husband talks to ex-wife too much
Dear Eric: One of my best friends is a woman I introduced to my boyfriend's brother. They married last October after knowing each other for about six months. My friend often confides in me about what's happening in the marriage. She is sensitive about her husband's relationship with his ex-wife and told him that he should only communicate with ...Read more
Enablement Versus Support
Dear Annie: My cousin, who is more like a sister to me, has been making a series of reckless and concerning choices over the past year. After having her second baby, she left her husband and began dating a string of borderline-abusive men. Now she's signing over full custody of her children to her ex-husband and impulsively buying a house out ...Read more

Asking Eric: After husband’s death, friends ask intrusive questions
Dear Eric: My husband passed away unexpectedly at a young age. I am a few years younger than he was, so of course it was a shock. The problem is a friend, "Nancy", discussed details surrounding his passing I would not have shared. It created the additional stress of people I hadn't heard from in years contacting me and I clearly didn't inform ...Read more
Family Betrayal Leaves No Room for Reconciliation
Dear Annie: For 32 years, I've been married to a wonderful partner who comes from a loving family. There was a crisis a year ago when my spouse was on business, and while they were working to get back home, our families stepped up to support us. A relative of my partner's showed particular concern, which surprised me. I care about this ...Read more

Asking Eric: College student struggles to keep friends
Dear Eric: I am a college student in my mid-20s, and I keep losing friends. Some friends have ghosted me, some got frustrated with me when I tried to figure out why they ended a friendship with me, and some have said that I talk about my problems too much, but they still want to be friends. One friend just lost their mom and told me what ...Read more
Should I Stop Confiding in a Friend Who Dismisses My Problems?
Dear Annie: I was out having lunch with a friend I've known for many years. We met when our children were babies; they are grown adults now.
We have only been meeting up once a week for lunch since April 2024, as we both have more time now that I have retired and she works part time.
The thing is, I'm feeling quite overwhelmed at the moment....Read more

Asking Eric: New boyfriend thinks he’s the father, but he’s not
Dear Eric: I am two months pregnant, or so I thought. Three months ago, I met Steve at a concert. Our relationship developed quickly, and we became intimate after only a few weeks.
Steve is so excited about the baby. It would be his first. He has even offered to marry me as soon as possible.
When I went for a checkup the other day, the doctor ...Read more
Sister Won't Let Go of Caretaking
Dear Annie: How do I get across to a sibling that she can't order me to come and be a caretaker for our ailing mother? Mom is almost 92 and is recovering from a stroke. It has affected her vision, so there are many daily things she cannot do for herself. She no longer drives; her poor motor skills don't allow her to cook or handle hot items on...Read more
Single File: Love Partnership
The days are gone when women made financial clout the top requisite for serious interest in a man. No longer economically second-class (if not financially whole, or at least with more earning potential -- and hope -- than before), women are asking something different from men. They are beginning to insist that their love object actively nurture ...Read more

The problem with asking, 'Where are the men of my caliber?'
I work with a lot of amazing, successful women. A lot. And I am constantly impressed by these women’s tenacity, drive and achievements. Most have made their financial wealth on their own and are very proud of that, as they should be. But with this success sometimes comes difficulty in finding a partner. Why is this?
As a recent example, I ...Read more

Ask Anna: Is sexting cheating? Navigating digital infidelity
Dear Anna,
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and recently found that he has been sexting strangers (single women and couples) on an app the entire time we’ve been together. When I found out I felt hurt, not just from the sexting but also because he has refused to sext with me ever. And he rarely initiates sex with me, and ...Read more

Asking Eric: Decades after divorce, second wife wants to share the truth with children
Dear Eric: My husband has been deceased for nearly a decade. Recently, I was going through his leftover files. For years he insisted that his ex-wife had lied to his children, telling them that he abandoned the family, didn't want the children and never paid child support. I have found letters, from 60 years ago, that his lawyer sent to him ...Read more
Struggling With Screen Time
Dear Annie: I never thought I had a screen time problem until my daughter called me out. The other night, we were sitting on the couch together, and she was excitedly telling me about her day. Without thinking, I picked up my phone to check a notification. She stopped mid-sentence and sighed, "Never mind, you're not even listening." That hit ...Read more