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Asking Eric: After brother’s death, his terrible wife wants to stay in touch
Dear Eric: My husband’s brother was a nice guy, albeit boring and a conversation hog. But he was family and we invited him, along with his wife and son, to our home over the years (they lived 500 miles away). He passed away three years ago.
His wife is one of the nastiest people I’ve ever met. She was verbally abusive to her husband, ...Read more
Showing Up Sick Is Selfish, Not Brave
Dear Annie: I genuinely like my job and most of the people I work with. We are a small office, so we see a lot of each other, share the same kitchen and bump into one another all day long. Normally that is fine, but lately one co-worker has turned cold and flu season into his own personal hobby.
I will call him "Carl." Carl has a special ...Read more
Asking Eric: 70-year-old fears he is a sugar daddy
Dear Eric: I am regretfully asking myself if I have morphed into a de facto sugar daddy. I'm in a four-year live-in relationship with a 42-year-old woman. I am 70.
Many might think the 28-year age gap is prima facie evidence of a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship. However, to date, the relationship has been the best, as it has been adorned ...Read more
A Fantasy That Raises Questions
Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 21 years, and our intimate life has always been great. Lately, though, over the past couple of months, he's become interested in role-playing. He loves to play the husband with a mistress, saying things like, "Don't let my wife catch us," or "I hope your husband doesn't come home and find us."...Read more
Asking Eric: Students give teacher gifts but her boyfriend objects
Dear Eric: I have been a preschool teacher for more than 20 years. There are a few times throughout the year where the kids and their parents give us gifts, which of course is optional. Those occasions are Christmas, Valentine's Day, Teacher Appreciation Week and Graduation.
I have never asked for, nor do I expect to receive gifts from the ...Read more
Picking Up the Pieces After Being Left Behind
Dear Annie: I'm wrapping up a HORRIBLE, out-of-the-blue abandonment divorce from my soon-to-be ex-husband.
In 2023, I came home from teaching kindergarten to find out my ex took the majority of our furniture and moved out of state. He blocked me and erased me as if I didn't exist. It took several months to locate him with a private detective....Read more
Asking Eric: Brother bullies siblings over aging mother’s care
Dear Eric: My mother is in her last months of life. She has been cared for in her home for the last three years by increasingly expensive home health care workers. I and other siblings have suggested over and over that she be put in a care home for round-the-clock care, but our oldest sibling (we’ll call them Jimmy) has steadfastly refused, ...Read more
Missing Intimacy in an Otherwise Good Marriage
Dear Annie: I've been married for 27 years, and by most measures we have a good, steady life. We're healthy, financially secure and get along well. There's no infidelity or drama.
The problem is there's no romance or passion either. I've started to feel deeply lonely in my marriage.
My husband is kind and dependable but distant. He's gone ...Read more
A Holiday Gift That Left a Mark
Dear Annie: We have one son who is married and has two beautiful children. At Christmas time, I go all out to make sure that I gift the grands things I know they will enjoy and appreciate.
We also exchange gifts with my son and daughter-in-law. This past year, it was an Omaha Steaks assortment, which I know they love to receive. In addition, ...Read more
Ask Anna: The guy I'm dating won't stop pressuring me about condoms -- what do I do?
Dear Anna,
I’ve been seeing someone for about two months. From day one, I told him I’m not on birth control and that condoms are nonnegotiable. Yet every time things get physical, he starts pushing back — asking if we can “just this once” skip it, saying condoms don’t feel as good, or promising he’ll pull out or be careful. We ...Read more
Single File: Male-Bashing -- How to Recognize and Avoid It
One day soon, in the middle of male-bashing with friends, you're going to discover that you're not participating as enthusiastically as the rest. When that happens, I hope you pat yourself on the back and think of me. It was the exercises of self-exploration in this column that you used to strengthen yourself and become abler to give yourself ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I write the 'right' profile?
I get a lot of questions that sound something like, “Can you help me write a profile that attracts the type of person I'm looking for?”
In the most loving way, I say, “No, I can't do that.”
And I don’t answer that way to be dismissive. I answer that way because I genuinely don't know what the person you're looking for … is ...Read more
Friend Can't Stop Throwing Jealous Jabs
Dear Annie: I have a problem that feels small when I say it out loud, but it is starting to take up way too much space in my head.
I have a close friend, "Megan," who has quietly turned into the scorekeeper of our friendship. She keeps tabs on everything. If I take two hours to text back, she will say, "Wow, must be nice to be busy," with a ...Read more
His parents wanted him to follow Jesus. He chose polyamory instead
PHILADELPHIA — Franki Jupiter grew up in St. Louis, the son of a Presbyterian minister and a Bible Study teacher. He was raised to believe he should marry young and remain committed — to both Jesus and his wife — for life.
But Jupiter, 39, didn’t end up doing so.
“I love people, and I’m not great with impulse control,” he ...Read more
Millennial Life: Thoughts and Prayers for the Second Amendment
We have been told, for decades now, that dead children are the price of freedom. School shootings are tragic, yes, but unavoidable. The Second Amendment is sacred, and any attempt to regulate guns is tyranny.
So when a man was shot and killed in Minnesota while legally carrying a firearm, not threatening anyone, not firing, not even holding it,...Read more
Ask Anna: My girlfriend's male coworker texts her constantly -- should I be worried?
Dear Anna,
I’m 35 and my girlfriend is 30. She works at a tech startup and has gotten really close with one of her coworkers — a 28-year-old guy who just moved to the city. They’re part of a work friend group that hangs out outside the office pretty regularly. Last weekend, the whole group went to a concert that I wanted to go to, but I ...Read more
Single File: Fusion Feminism
Again and again, my mind returns to the letters I receive from women discouraged and frustrated in their relationships with men. Recently, when I was thinking about a photo I had seen of Gloria Steinem in softly curled tresses, the letters and the photo jelled and became an insight: The chief exponent of female equality was urging her flock ...Read more
Ask Dating Coach Erika: How do I manage the grief associated with not finding what I'm looking for?
Today, we have five questions across all aspects of dating:
Q: How do I manage the grief associated with not finding what I’m looking for?
A: This is an interesting question that can answer in a few different ways.
First, I completely understand what you're saying. Most people's lives don't go in exactly the way they want. So we do have to ...Read more
Millennial Life: Letting Joy Lift You
The city invited me to ride on its inaugural hot-air balloon flight. We headed to the local high school fields at a chilly dawn, and the brand new balloon slowly woke as air and heat gave it shape. The burners thundered, and the basket rocked beneath our feet. Then the ground loosened its hold. Gravity softened. The familiar sense of weight, not...Read more
Three best friends from childhood decided to commit -- by buying a communal house together
The Rachels met each other when they were 5 and 6 years old, and they met Lizzy Seitel — who would come to be known as one of the Rachels despite her name — in middle school.
They all lived in the D.C. area, and one weekend they took part in a retreat with Cheder, a progressive Jewish community in the area. In Seitel’s recollection, they ...Read more
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