Booking Error Causes Strain In Friendship
DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend and I are going on a trip to Iceland. The other day, we were looking at dates to book our flights; we decided on a seven-day trip, and my friend decided to book her flight on the spot while I held off to double-check my work schedule and compare prices. After she booked her flight, she realized that she booked it for a day earlier than what we decided on. She then told me it's not that big of a deal and that I should just book my flight a day earlier. The problem is that flying a day earlier would cost me significantly more money, and I would also have to rearrange some work commitments. I suggested that she try to change her flight instead, since she was the one who made the mistake, but she said the change fee would be expensive and it would be easier if I just adjusted my plans. I don't think it's fair that I should have to spend extra money because of her booking error. At the same time, I don't want to come across as inflexible or cheap. This trip is supposed to be fun, and we've both been looking forward to exploring Iceland together for months. Should I book the original dates and meet my friend there or fly in a day early? -- Travel Blues
DEAR TRAVEL BLUES: You have choices. I would follow your original plan and meet up with your friend the next day. That way, you don't overspend or disrupt your workflow. You could also ask your friend to split the additional costs with you for you to fly out early. If she is unwilling to do that, don't make it a big deal. Meet up with her a day later and have a great trip. Your decision to follow the plan you made together does not make you inflexible or cheap.
DEAR HARRIETTE: A few months ago, I introduced my friends to each other because I thought that they would get along. They both have strong personalities, are outspoken and share similar interests, so I thought it would be a natural connection. Unfortunately, the exact opposite happened, and they didn't get on like I imagined. From the moment they met, the energy felt tense. Their conversation felt competitive rather than friendly, and there were subtle digs disguised as jokes. After they met, both asked me why I was even friends with the other person. They both criticized the other's personality and character. I felt defensive and strangely embarrassed.
Now I feel stuck in the middle. When I spend time with one, they make comments about the other. I don't want to choose sides because I value both friendships for different reasons. How do I maintain both relationships without feeling like I'm constantly having to justify my friendship to each of them? -- Friend Faux Pas
DEAR FRIEND FAUX PAS: Sometimes when people are too much alike, they clash. That seems to be what happened with your friends. Next time one complains about the other, point that out. Apologize for reading the energy wrong. You thought they would like each other, and you're sorry that they don't. But draw the line: Both are your friends, and you don't want to talk about either of them. Stop their complaints as soon as they start.
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